16 Things I Learned When I Was 16 | 16 2

I have been working on this post for a while. Throughout the past several months I have been slowly compiling a list of things. Some lighthearted, some not. Some are quotes, and some are just thoughts. Here is the thing, I feel like in some ways this list makes me seem like some very wise teenage girl who may have slipped up in the past but really has it together now. I cannot stress how false that is. I still mess up all the time. I still have friends yelling at me for how stupid I can be on the reg. I am still trying to beat everything on this list into my brain. This list more than anything is a list of things I should have learned when I was 16. So, heres to one heck of a year:


Dear sixteen year old Carrie,

  1. You don’t know this yet, but you like attention. The fact is, you like being liked. That will blind you for much of this year, but don’t let that take away from the fact that you like you too.
  2. You will cry and get mad at a couple of your friends for telling you the truth and yelling at you, but love them with everything in you because they wouldn’t yell if they didn’t care.
  3. The way people treat you is not a statement about you, but a statement about them; so for the love of God stop thinking you did something wrong.
  4. I don’t know how to prepare you for how some of your best friends will let you down this year, but trust me when I tell you you will learn who is worth forgiving, and what forgiveness really is.
  5. Every single one of your feelings is valid.
  6. Eating ice cream at midnight is amazing and you should do it all the time.
  7. You will be shocked by the people you now call your best friends, but they are the best people on earth and love you more than you know. Also, y’all will help each other get through everything this year so you owe them a big thank you.
  8. The only way he wins is if you allow him to change your heart. He doesn’t win unless you stoop to his level. There is a lot of strength in staying soft.
  9. Writing and reading are amazing forms of therapy and I strongly recommend you never hold back on doing either.
  10. Speaking of, never be afraid to ask for help.
  11. Please make sure you are always in charge of your happiness and self worth. It is so easy to give that power over to other people, but it is also very dangerous.
  12. YO, HUN, you should trust him when he says he isn’t a good guy. Translation: he doesn’t care enough to change. 🙂
  13. Go to every dance and every silly school function. Trust me you will love them all.
  14. You’re amazing and funny and really cool and you have a lot to offer and you should always remember that!
  15. Literally if there is one thing you need to do it’s this: Stop romanticizing those who have hurt you.
  16. People look up to you and care about what you have to say. Remember this when you feel like you have nothing to give.

At the end of the year you’ll look back and be amazed. While parts of this year were rough to say the least you got through them with amazing people by your side. You made awesome memories and had a hell of a lot of fun. All I can say is I hope it only gets better from here.


Seventeen year old Carrie

A List of 10 Things I Know to be True | true 4

For the most part I have been quiet about why I haven’t been blogging as frequently as I would like to. I didn’t know how to say what I was feeling without coming directly out and saying it, but here it is- I am tired of having a fashion blog. If there is one thing I have learned in the past 10 months of writing nonstop it is that I have a voice, I have something to say, and I want to use that voice to talk about something real. I am not in any way putting down people who write about fashion. I still love it and use it as a huge escape, but I want to talk about more.

Last year I wrote a Sunday Reflection every single week, but beyond that I was essentially a fashion blog. The funny thing is, Sophomore year I truly hadn’t “gone through” anything. School was my biggest source of anxiety, and honestly I would kill for that now. This all seems slightly melodramatic (but its me, I’m kinda dramatic) but honestly I am just trying to get my point across. Life isn’t always sunshine and roses no matter how many bloggers try and make it seem like it is. 

I am not saying I will never do an outfit post again, because like I said, I still love it. However, I want to become known more as a place where girls my age can come and feel understood, get advice or feel like they aren’t going through something alone. Because let’s be honest, life is sucky sometimes. Sometimes it is so incredibly amazing. But sometimes it takes you down a peg or two.

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So, without further ado, I am becoming a more open space on the internet. If I can in any way help even one person I’ll be happy.

Here is a list of 10 things I know to be true. (There will be more to come.)

  1. Closure may be terrifying and painful, but you need it.
  2. When someone keeps touching right where it hurts, they’re not clueless, they’re cruel.
  3. Nothing good ever comes out of reading old conversations.
  4. A long car ride with a friend can solve a lot of problems (or at least help you forget about them for a while).
  5. Judging people is honestly the biggest waste of time ever and it doesn’t make you look cool.
  6. The problem with second chances is that they are rarely ever just the second time.
  7. Life isn’t easy. Wear your bruises and scars with pride to prove you showed up.
  8. You have to find someone who is willing to sit in your little hole with you sometimes.
  9. When appropriate, no pants are better than pants.
  10. You have to own who you are.


How to Focus on You

Way back in November or December the very wise Anna Tselevich (Undeniably Anna) told me I needed to start being selfish, especially with my time. At the time, did I not only not understand what she meant, I had no idea how to do that. Thankfully I had Thanksgiving and Christmas break to try and get my footing.


Read some great books//I may do a post very soon about some of my favorite books but my all time favorite has to be The Opposite of Loneliness. It may not be everyones cup of tea as it is a collection of short stories, essays and poems, both fiction and nonfiction. They are largely about the author Marina Keegan. I actually start to cry when I think about her stories because the book is beyond beautiful. It was just so great to read something about our generation from someone who was actually living it, and someone who can look at all these problems and still remain so hopeful.

Get creative//Whatever that means for you, do it! For me that means writing. I write about everything. The age-old “write a letter and never send it” is seriously therapeutic. If you’re a painter, paint! If you’re a dancer, dance! Whatever it is that makes you really happy, do it!

Find some great new movies to watch//Make a list of all the movies you never got around to watching or find a list of  “must see” movies and watch them!

Realize that you don’t have to be alone//Just because you have decided to take some time for yourself, doesn’t mean you have to isolate yourself. Sometimes what you need the most is to have a day just hanging out with your best friend, or getting a group of people together to go see and movie and dinner.

I think what being selfish with your time means is finding what you love and doing it as much as you can. A large part of  “being selfish” is also not letting things that aren’t important take up too much of your time. This is your time to take care of yourself and put yourself first.



So Hi… I’m Still Alive 2

Hi everyone!! I really don’t even know where to start for this post. As you know I haven’t written on here at least, in months. A couple of nights ago I was working on stuff for The Undeniable Life (we just re-did the site and it looks really amazing!!) and had this thought, “I created this whole little place for myself, and haven’t even been contributing to it.” Which, for some reason, really seems to sum up my year. I really cannot even begin to tell you how absolutely insane this year has been. I knew that school would be crazy, and it was, but nothing could have prepared me for the rest of the year. Maybe someday, years from now, I’ll share more about this year, because if nothing else good came from this year, I really did learn a lot. Well, in all honesty, that sentiment can be summed up best by something one of my favorite singers, Alessia Cara, said about her first album. “This is full of things I think I know but secretly haven’t figured out yet.”


Back in November I wrote a Sunday Reflections/Update on me and my life. In that post I talked about how I finally had gotten back to a good place and had made a routine that really worked for me. All I am going to say about that is I think God couldn’t stop laughing. Just hours after that post went up once again life took a very interesting turn. So, this is really what I am trying to say: I can’t predict the future. I don’t know where life will take me or what direction I will exactly take my blog in. It may not be perfect, but I really want to get back to posting. It makes me happy and gives me and outlet, and both of those things are needed right now.


How to Start Looking at Colleges 2


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I was one of those weird kids whose since 7th grade was in love with the idea of college. I don’t know if it just comes along with the “get me out of this town I want to do something bigger” mindset, but I can’t remember a time when I was actively looking at colleges. Now I don’t recommend starting to look at colleges in 7th grade, but I do think you should start early. Now, obviously, I am not a guidance counselor, but I just telling you what I have done and what I think helped me. I started seriously looking at colleges freshman year. Now, so so so many things have changed since then that many of the colleges I was looking at then aren’t even a possibility now, but it got my foot in the door. However, there were steps I took freshman year that really, truly helped and I think will help you too.

College Prowler// College Prowler aka Niche was and continues to be my life line. You can create a profile with your intended major, GPA and test scores, then they will recommend schools that they think you would like. Yo can also set it to where schools are view your profile and say if they are interested in you. However, I use it most to search any school I am interested in. When you search a school everything from tuition to acceptance rate to an overall experience score pops up. You can click more information to get super detailed information about the school which is extremely helpful.

Make a List// Make a list of exactly what you want in a college and don’t stray from it. You need to decide where you are comfortable going to college. I knew that for me, while I hope to go out of state, I really don’t want to leave the South for college. Other factors like greek life, sports and the local area should also be on your list. You also need to sit down and talk to your parents are tuition. It is no fun but it has to happen to really put guidelines on where you can look at going.

Get Mail// If you are even remotely interested in any school go to there website and ask to receive more information. You will get put on their mailing list and will start to receive information that can really help you decide if that school is the right choice for you or not. I have a huge basket sitting in my room overflowing with college info I have received in the past two and a half years. Most of those schools I wouldn’t even think about going to now, but getting that information really helped me narrow down my choices.


A MarleyLilly Surprise + A Short Christmas Wish List 1

Hey Lovelies! Happy Cyber Monday everyone! Every year I always wish I could get some amazing deals on Cyber Monday, but alas, school always gets in the way. This year though I am sharing a special deal from MarleyLilly and sharing a few things on my wish list!

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So today only on MarleyLilly if you spend $50 or more you get this amazing statement necklace with your purchase! It’s amazing and I am head over heels in love with mine. Anyone who knows me knows that I will do just about anything for some pearls and a statement necklace, so I am seriously thinking that this may become my new favorite statement piece. It honestly goes with everything!


For anyone needing some ideas on what to ask for for Christmas, or any family members doing some Cyber Monday shopping 😉 I have made a short little Christmas wish list. These are some of the goodies I am really in love with this year and I think y’all will love them too!


  1. It by Alexa Chung– After watching this series on the British Vogue YouTube channel, I fell in love with Alexa Chung. She is so effortlessly cool and has truly been all over the fashion industry. Also, I am low key obsessed with fashion books right now.
  2. Alex and Ani Leo Charm Bangle I’m, obviously, a Leo and darn proud of it. Alex and Ani just make the cutest and best bangles (and they actually fit me!) There are so many of their bangles that I want it is hard to pick just a few.
  3. Jadelynn Brooke #SquadGoals Grey’s Anatomy– Hi, my name is Carrie and I am addicted to Grey’s Anatomy. I am also obsessed with Jadelynn Brooke’s sweatshirts so this was a match made in heaven for me.
  4. Season 1 of Graceland- If you are looking for a new show to watch on Netflix or Hulu I strongly urge you to watch Graceland. Anna and I are addicted to it and I need it permanently in my life in DVD form.
  5. Barrington St. Anne Tote- This is the “big” Christmas gift I really want. First of all, hello, I am in love with the plaid pattern they have in their fall line this year. Also, you just can’t go wrong with a good, well made tote. They are so useful and are great for school, travel and everything in-between.
  6. MarleyLilly Monogrammed Woven Herringbone Vest- Saving the best for last, I am in love with this MarleyLilly vest! I mean it is monogrammed and herringbone, you can’t get much better than that if you ask me.


Sunday Reflections ~ An Update (& I’m Coming Back) 1


Hi everyone! So this week I am doing my Sunday Reflections a little backwards and I am starting this post before I have a quote. Basically, I have no idea where this post will go I just feel the need to let you know where I am right now and give you an update on me. So, as you have probably noticed, I essentially took a two month blogging break. I had no plan to do this, but I think at the time it was what I needed. I want to start this by saying thank you all so so much. For the first time in months today I went ahead and checked my site stats (the stats that show how many people visit Carrie On Blogs everyday). Honestly, I was expecting a zero or just a handful every few days, but I was shocked with what I saw. So many of y’all are still coming on and checking and looking at posts, new and old, everyday. Thank you all so much for your immense amount of patience and support while I took a break. As to why my absence took place, it is a plethora of things. Basically since late September I have just been a bit “off.” I think it is a combination of school, stress and just the occasional crap that happens when you are human, but they all added up to me just feeling blah. As you probably know by now, I am a very open, honest person, and I honestly just did not think I could keep writing fun, inspiring posts when I was just so stressed with life. Hence, my break. I really tried to take this week to clear my head and just focus on how to be less stressed and worried about life. I think (please God let it work) that I have come up with a routine that really helps we relax and unwind. I am not saying that the time between now and Christmas will be perfectly scheduled (because hello midterms) but hopefully they will be more consistent. Again, thank you all so much and I can’t wait to get back to doing what I love!